Friends and Relationships
So the first topic I want talk about today is something that I feel a lot of people struggle with at times. When in a relationship how much time do you spend with friends and your significant other? My opinion comes from experience. I've been in a relationship where I've spent too much time with my significant other. I've had friends who have told me I spent to much time with my significant other and it hurt them. I've also been on the other side of things being the friend who feels hurt by not being able to spend times with friends. Now I really want to start off by saying this. When your in a relationship and it ends who is there for you? When you get married and end up in a divorce who is there for you? When your significant other dies who is there for you? The answer to all these questions is your family and friends. Now I know relationships are great and all but I feel the most important thing in the world is friendship. Ok so I think its important to try to keep these things about equal. So in my opinion these are the two things you have to make sure of in a relationship.
1) make sure to still talk to your friends.
Make sure that you are still talking to your friends. If you don't know what's going on in your friends life... Think about this if you don't know what's going on you may be spending to much time with your other. Look at your text messages have you still been talking? Yes I get it we want to talk to your others but make sure that your friends still know that your at least alive. Friends tell each other everything at least good ones do and if your not talking to them then they won't want to talk to you.
2) make sure to hang out.
This one is really important in my opinion. Think about the last time you saw your friends. Has it been weeks or months? If you may be spending to much time with your other. This of course does depend on the distance, but if your five or ten minutes away there really is no excuse for this. Your friends love you and want to see you so make sure that you still are spending time with them. Make sure that they are spending one on one time with you to. I kind of think about how I met your mother on this one. The main character Ted brings his girlfriends to meet his friends to see if his friends like them. I think that is something we should all do really. Your friends are a part of you you may not know it but they are a huge part of you. If someone doesn't like your friends then there is a chance that they don't like you and might try to change you. So if you all get along make sure all of you hang out but don't forget to make some alone time with your friends. Friends try to tell there friends everything that is part of the deal and some of those things may be things they don't want others hearing so make some time.
3) don't replace them
The last thing kind of combines the first two I guess but make sure you tell your friends that you love them and that they are still important in your life. Think of your friends like a dog a dog is happy to see you and sad when your gone so make the dog happy and still spend time with them don't abandon your friends. It's like I said at the beginning....
Your friends will be there for you when you break up, when you get divorced, or when the other dies.
Keep your friends close!!!!!
This and That Guy